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IBAT IBANG DAHILAN. PWEDENG FOR FUN LANG. "BUTI NA YAN KESA WALA" OR PWEDE NA IYANG "PANTAWID-GUTOM". MEANING, HABANG WALA PA IYONG REAL THING, DOON MUNA SA KUNWA-KUNWARIAN.
FOR THOSE WHO ARE NOT IN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, THEY WOULD THINK THAT PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN NO RELATIONSHIP AT ALL. IT WOULD BE FUN, IF ALL YOU ARE AFTER FOR IS THAT "KILIG" FEELING.
AMINADO NAMAN AKO NA ONCE UPON A TIME, MAY MGA PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIPS DIN AKO. NO COMMITMENTS INVOLVED. FOR THE SIMPLEST REASON THAT THEY COULDNT COMMIT, BEC. THEY WERE EITHER COMMITTED TO SOMEONE ELSE OR THAT THEY WERENT READY TO COMMIT. MY RATIONALIZATION, "OK NA YUN, KESA WALA."
ANG HABOL KO LANG NAMAN, IYONG KILIG FEELING. IYONG MERONG NAGTATANONG KUNG KAMUSTA ARAW KO. IYONG MERONG KA-CUDDLE SA BEACH OUTING. IYONG KAPAG TUMUNOG ANG CELLPHONE, MAPAPANGITI NA AKO DAHIL ALAM KONG GALING SA KANYA ANG MESSAGE. IYONG MERONG LAGING KASAMA. HABANG WALA PA ANG THE REAL THING, PWEDE NA ITONG PAGTIYAGAAN.
BUT THEN I LEARNED THAT ALTHOUGH IT WAS ONLY A PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP, THE EMOTIONS WERE REAL. AND USUALLY, IN THIS KIND OF SET UP, ANG BABAE ANG LUGI.
UNA, YOU CANT ASK HIM TO COMMIT. SINCE ITS NOT REALLY A RELATIONSHIP, YOU CANT DEMAND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR PARTNER. ANO BA KAYO? MAY K KA NGA BA MAGPASUNDO NG HATINGGABI? YOU WILL ALWAYS BE UNCERTAIN ABOUT YOUR ROLE IN HIS LIFE. YOU CANT EXPECT HIM TO BE ALWAYS THERE WITH YOU. ANF IF YOU FEEL JEALOUS OF THE OTHER GIRLS, YOU JUST HAVE TO KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. ANO KA BA NIYA PARA MAGSELOS?
PANGALAWA, WHAT IF YOU FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH HIM? YOU CANT BE SURE IF HE FEELS THE SAME WAY. BAKA-NAG-AASUME KA LANG NA MAHAL KA RIN NYA. EVEN IF YOU ARE DYING TO TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM, YOU CANT. BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT SURE IF HE’LL LIKE IT. BAKA MAPAHIYA KA LANG. THIS STAGE WILL ALWAYS MAKE YOU WONDER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. OR IF THERE IS A RELATIONSHIP AT ALL.
PANGATLO, WHAT IF YOU BECOME ATTACHED TOO MUCH? WHAT IF YOU HAVE INVESTED ALL YOUR EMOTIONS AND THIS MAN HASNT? WHAT IF YOU REMAIN FAITHFUL TO HIM, NOT ENTERTAINING OTHER GUYS, ONLY TO FIND OUT HE IS SEEING OTHER GIRLS?
ISA PANG DOWNSIDE NG PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIPS, IT IS FLEETING. WHEN A DISAGREEMENT SETS IN, OR WHEN ONE OF YOU GETS COLD, THEN THAT WOULD BE THE END OF IT. UNLIKE IN A SERIOUS REALTIONSHIP, HINDI MO ALAM KUNG SAAN KA LULUGAR SA ISANG PSEUDO-REALTIONSHIP. WALA KANG PINANGHAHAWAKAN. KASI PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP, THERE IS NO "US". MERON LANG, "YOU AND ME," HINDI "US."
BUTI SANA KUNG PSEUDO-PAIN DIN LANG ANG MARARANASAN MO. KASO, HINDI E. REAL PAIN. AND USUALLY, KAHIT TAPOS NA ANG PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP, HINDI MO MAIWASAN UMASANG ONE DAY, MAY KARUGTONG PA RIN YUN. AND YOU WILL BE MISERABLE, HOPING TO BRING BACK WHAT YOU USED TO HAVE, ONLY TO FIND OUT EVENTUALLY THAT THE GUY IS IN ANOTHER PESUDO-RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEBODY ELSE.
ANG HIRAP, ANO? YOU AGREED TO THIS KIND OF SET UP FOR FUN AND THEN YOU’D END UP HURTING YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS.
PERO PWEDE NAMAN MAIWASAN ANG PAIN EH. PWEDE NAMAN NA HINDI MUNA ISIPIN ANG FUTURE AND JUST ENJOY THE FEELING, WITHOUT THINKING OF THE CONSEQUENCES.
BUT IF YOU ARE CERTAIN THAT YOU ARE GOING TO HURT YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS, KAILANGAN MO MAMILI. YOU CAN BE HAPPY AND LIVE THE MOMENT WITHOUT WORRYING WHAT WOULD HAPPEN NEXT. OR YOU CAN STOP SETTLING WITH PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIPS AND WAIT FOR THE REAL THING.
WHEN I WAS YOUNGER AND IN PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP WITH AN UNAVAILABLE GUY, A FRIEND TOLD ME, "SIGE KUNG AYAW MONG MAGPAPIGIL, BAHALA KA. MAGPAKASAYA KA.PERO HUWAG KANG IIYAK-IYAK PAGKATAPOS, DAHIL TATADYAKAN KITA"
AND THE BOTTOM LINE LANG NMAN, KUNG MAGPAPASAYA SA IYO, GAWIN MO. IHANDA MO LANG ANG SARILI MO SA CONSEQUENCE. DAHIL ANG "PARANG KAYO PERO HINDI" STAGE AY BIHIRANG NAGIGING TOTOO. USUALLY, HANGGANG DOON LANG SIYA…ALMOST BUT NOT QUITE.
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